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Tuesday, May 26, 2015

One-Sided Relationships: My Lesson

At some point, we all learn lessons from what turns out to be one-sided relationships. Takers leech from givers, ignoring/trampling extended love/effort. In other words, takers live off our life force. Therefore, givers lose out when they never gain anything from the relationship. That's why one-sided relationships are like black holes. That's also why God removes us at some point. One-sided relationships are dead-end streets that rob us of God's best. He sees what we can't, knows and understands what we don't. He loves us too much to leave us ignorant. Sometimes He lets us learn for ourselves when things are hopeless. God already knows what won't change, but He patiently awaits us to realize it. God already knows who can't be helped, which is why we must let Him lead us. Experience teaches us to warn others about hopeless people. We may still love someone, but sometimes true love must get tough. Tough love means cutting the apron strings and letting someone suffer from their own bad choices. Our futures become brighter when we leave hopeless situations behind, and move onto something far better. Better recognition now helps us avoid future disappointment. Givers, if anything sounds familiar, it's time to wise up. One-way relationships are dead-end streets leading us nowhere. At some point, our gut feelings tell us when something's hopeless. The more we fight it, the more it'll nag us until we finally learn how right that feeling really is. When something feels wrong, it probably is. It's OK to listen to that gut feeling; it's NOT in our heads. Not forcing the situation means leaving it behind even when we're reluctant. We must sometimes drop things to get God's best for our lives. Change can be hard, but God's patient enough to wait years if needed. We may not be able to imagine life without that taker, but they can obviously live without us. Takers can live off our life force without us knowing it. Prolonged exposure eventually drains us to the point of exhaustion. That's why we really should listen to those gut feelings which are God's Way of warning us. Those gut feelings are really that still small voice guiding us out of unprofitable, time wasting situations that have no future. God's plan for our lives involves others. However, if those He intended for a special purpose are unwilling, they can be replaced if God so chooses. Instagram

Saturday, July 21, 2012

Tips For Novice Bikers

     This article covers street bikes for novice riders. Each biker's experience has a beginning. We can all learn from them along the way. Furthermore, it's better to learn from their mistakes than to suffer from our own. Some bikers will even share the importance of wearing a helmet.        A helmet is important when riding. Wrecks happen. That's why a helmet is needed. A properly sized helmet should fit snug and not slip when strapped down. There are a few helmet styles to suit the rider's needs. Get help choosing a first helmet. The next step is finding the right bike.       Bikes vary. Novice riders should stay within their physical limits when choosing a bike. One important way to measure a bike is by weight. If that bike falls, can you pick it up? If not, it's too heavy. When you find a bike you can easily handle, what's the the engine size?       Engine sizes are measured in CCs. Higher CCs mean a bigger engine capable of gaining more speed faster than a smaller engine. Therefore, no novice should operate any bike bigger than a 250. Anything above 250 is for experienced riders.        Before riding, it's best to get to know where the brakes and clutch are. These items will get regular use. Knowing how to shift manual transmissions can be tricky for beginners. Moving from a stop can also be tricky when the bike stalls at every stop. That's why having an instructor helps ease the transition to a motorcycle.       A permit is required before driving the new bike. The permit, registration, and insurance card should be carried in case you're ever stopped. Any rider with only a motorcycle license should be prepared for the possibility to be randomly stopped. In Ohio a motorcycle was my first vehicle. I started with an M1 motorcycle only license. The police department's system frequently read, No Drivers License. Showing proof of required paperwork immediately got me on my way. Frequent stops ceased after finally getting a regular license with an endorsement. After obtaining the license, traffic laws must continue to be obeyed.  Instagram

Saturday, July 16, 2011

a wonderful cookout memory

At some point, we've all had wonderful moments that really touched our hearts. One moment I'll always cherish is the day a friend introduced me to a wonderful dessert known as Missippi Mud Cake. Now I've heard of the pie, but the cake was new to me. Little did I know, I was about to recieve a blessing that would last forever. My friend, being the nurturer that she is, has always been a blessing to others in some unique way. However, I was especially touched when my friend surprised me in a unique way at dessert time. My sweet friend got a fork from the kitchen drawer, and I was touched when she instead fed me a few bites of the dessert, and even wrapped some up for me to take home. I was surprised to learn that the special dessert was actually a secret family recipe, passed to her by her mom, who was visiting that day. Today, I have one more good memory to meditate on, and I'll one day take it home to Heaven. I eventually discovered that those deeply touching moments are tools that help me worship God better than I did before. The precious memories help me go deeper In worship than I ever did before. When my friend had me over for the cookout, neither of us knew she'd be used of God in a mighty way. We often see in hindsight what we didn't see before. I know now I was at the cookout by Divine appointment. Instagram

don't block public alleys

When visiting an area involved a public alley, it's ONLY far to the rightful residents if visitarse kinder park or wait in an area that's not botaron to the resident who live on the alley. Always are more than public through-streets, they're also driveways for residents who live on those alleys. If authorities are called on a vehicle blocking a public alley, the residents have the upper hand; They live there, so they have more leverage. When defects negativly affect vehicles going up one end of a poorly made alley, leaving local traffic to enter the other end, it's unir to a resident comino home when a rude visitor is reluctant to move for a residents needing certain access to park a vehicle. after all, the resident lives there. Those who block alleys should think twice, because a cop may show up and issue a citation. Alleys are public through streets; It's illegal to park in, or block them. Remember, if the law can issue heavy fines for illegal use of handicapped parking, they can do likewise for illegal use of an alley. Instagram

Thursday, July 14, 2011

road rage must stop

We take for granted that we're safe in our travels until someone causes an accident. When something happens beyond our control, travel plans are ruined, especially when we're enroute to a theme park. Meanwhile, our modes of transportation are often out of commission while things are straightened out. Other consequences of someone's negligence are the injured, or dead. If we think before making dangerous decisions, our streets would be safer.
Another thing we should consider is parking lot rage. One time I was arriving for an appointment at an establishment when a clutz suddenly slammed on her gas, and back almost backed into me without even looking. Had I not been on a bicycle, I know that I wouldn't have been so lucky. The bicycle helped me swerve out of harm's way as the clutz went on her way. I pity any pedestrian; (Especially child, handicapped, or elderly) who could've easily in her path at that moment. Had I been a cop, that car and license would've been taken for as long as absolutely possible, and the driver thrown in jail. New laws should make people think twice before using a car as a weapon. Those new laws would require new/offending drivers to take a class, and pass a safety course before being granted a permit or license. If they can make teens take drivers' ed, the same should apply to adults. If student drivers pass both class and course, they get can drive; If not, they walk. New laws really should weed out those who will clearly endanger the rest of us. Bad drivers kill good ones, which is why it's time for authorities and lawmakers to really crack down.
Those who are already established responsible drivers wouldn't be affected as long as they continue being responsible. I hope Those who read this will support/encourage new laws that protect us all, and reward good drivers. Instagram

Tips For Novice Bikers

     This article covers street bikes for novice riders. Each biker's experience has a beginning. We can all learn from them along the way. Furthermore, it's better to learn from their mistakes than to suffer from our own. Some bikers will even share the importance of wearing a helmet.        A helmet is important when riding. Wrecks happen. That's why a helmet is needed. A properly sized helmet should fit snug and not slip when strapped down. There are a few helmet styles to suit the rider's needs. Get help choosing a first helmet. The next step is finding the right bike.       Bikes vary. Novice riders should stay within their physical limits when choosing a bike. One important way to measure a bike is by weight. If that bike falls, can you pick it up? If not, it's too heavy. When you find a bike you can easily handle, what's the the engine size?       Engine sizes are measured in CCs. Higher CCs mean a bigger engine capable of gaining more speed faster than a smaller engine. Therefore, no novice should operate any bike bigger than a 250. Anything above 250 is for experienced riders.        Before riding, it's best to get to know where the brakes and clutch are. These items will get regular use. Knowing how to shift manual transmissions can be tricky for beginners. Moving from a stop can also be tricky when the bike stalls at every stop. That's why having an instructor helps ease the transition to a motorcycle.       A permit is required before driving the new bike. The permit, registration, and insurance card should be carried in case you're ever stopped. Any rider with only a motorcycle license should be prepared for the possibility to be randomly stopped. In Ohio a motorcycle was my first vehicle. I started with an M1 motorcycle only license. The police department's system frequently read, No Drivers License. Showing proof of required paperwork immediately got me on my way. Frequent stops ceased after finally getting a regular license with an endorsement. After obtaining the license, traffic laws must continue to be obeyed.

the abuse cycle

Every day, many people will experience some form of abuse, be it physical, verbal, mental, emotional, or any other. What victims don't realize is that what's being done to them is actually an endless, vicious cycle that never just goes away; In fact, it WON'T just 'go away'. Too many victims even die at their abusers' hands when they're cleverly tricked into staying. Those 'good' times actually do trick victims into THINKING that things will/have changed, only to learn they were wrong. Victims often feel guilty when abusers blame them for things. They often don't realize that the abuser's really the guilty one. Only when the victim wises up, can they leave. After leaving, the victim may feel guilty for leaving, like they did something wrong. Victims who leave may even feel somehow concerned or responsible for their abusers.Abusers use that guilt to often regain their victims. Other times, abusers admit fault, apologze, and give empty promises that never happen. Sadly, so many victims fall for the lies hook, line, and sinker. Once the abuser regains their victim, good times are short-lived, and the abuse cycle starts right back up. The second part of the cycle is usually worse than the first. The victim is likely to be punished for leaving, which scares them into staying. At some point, a victim often dies from abuse. New laws should require abusers to register, putting the under the same exact strict laws as sex offenders. Such laws would make our communities safer. I hope that everyone who reads this will get involved and help rescue abuse victims. Our authorities can't do it all by themselves; They need our help. Don't let another innocent person die; Please get involved. That victim is someone's son, daughter, mother, father, grandparent, friend. That victim could be you or someone you know/love. Become part of the solution, not part of the problem. Instagram